Self-Esteem Killers ...

If you saw someone beating a child infront of you, what would you do !!
That wasn't a question, because surely you would feel obligated to stop it.
Why? Because it is the most obvious form of physical child abuse.
But what about the "Verbal Abuse" ?!!!
Well, words can hit as hard as a fist, and the damage has as much or more impact than physical violence.

Self-Esteem Killers are a form of verbal violence, it is destructive to a person's well-being and is therefore always a form of abuse.  A self-esteem killer is a statement about another person that is designed to diminish that person's sense of personal worth.  Often these statements are humorous in a cruel way.  When children are brought up hearing these self-esteem killers, they are likely to then pass on self-esteem killers to others without realizing what they are doing in the moment.  They may not recognize their destructive nature. 

Using Self-Esteem Killers with children is very dangerous, because labels become a self-fulfilling prophecy.  Meaning, your child's self-esteem and his/her resulting behavior are built in part on the "labels" of character that you and other caregivers use to describe your child.
Parents are the most powerful people in a child's life, using self-esteem killers to describe your kid's character has much to do with the interpretation a child will have of his/her own character and what kind of person this kid will grow up to be, because they lack previous experience to believe otherwise than what they are being told.

So, what to do ? How to change our language & attitude ? Showing some really "creative" examples of  self-esteem killers to avoid ... will all be posted next !

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